In one of my favourite and most inspiring podcasts, Paul Boross speaks passionately how people can vastly improve the quality of their lives by implementing some relatively simple steps. In over 25 years of experience, “The Pitch Doctor” has worked with a huge range of clients to help them build their confidence and performance. He shared with me some of his best tips he has learned throughout the years.
He delivers keynote speeches at many conferences and events across the globe and he knew from a very young age that he always loved being in front of an audience. Paul was also in a band called ‘Morris Minor and Majors’, who had a top three hit with “Stutter Rap” and also spent 12 years performing at the Comedy Store, where he was part of ‘The Calypso Twins’ alongside Ainsley Harriott. He saw a lot of parallels between comedy and psychology and after helping a fellow comedian overcome stage fright, he wanted to learn more about new psychology.
His passion for helping others and personal development continued to grow and grow. He now helps clients such as high profile business leaders, sport stars, politicians and celebrities improve the quality of their communication, pitch and presentation skills at conferences and events. Furthermore, he has also written four best-selling books on the art of pitching. He recently published another called “Leader of the Pitch” which he co-authored with former Wales rugby star Scott Quinnell.
Paul is so passionate about helping others fulfil their potential that he generously shares a huge amount of advice in the podcast for you to learn and grow from. In this wide-ranging interview, we discuss how the words you say become your reality, how having a positive attitude will help you become successful, the need to trust your instinct and so much more.
Here are some of the important key things to take away from Paul’s brilliant interview:
1.The words you say become your reality. Whatever you say to yourself and who you believe you are, these thoughts will become your reality. If you say before a presentation or a pitch, “I’m nervous” then you will become more nervous. Think more positively and rather than say “I’m nervous” say “I’m excited” then you will become excited. Everyone gets nervous at one point or another, but all successful people have the ability to get on with it even when it scares them. Goals are meant to challenge you to help you become a much stronger person. Say positive things about yourself, think positively and you will succeed.
2. Assume everyone is lovely and let them prove you wrong. When meeting someone for the first time or going to an event with strangers around you, you need to walk into the room assuming everyone is nice. Paul uses this approach whenever he gives a keynote speech because if he doesn’t, he will be preoccupied wondering which ones are the horrible people. As he pointed out in an argument with a German man at one of his conferences, you can’t assume only 99% are good. You have to stay focused on what you are doing and assume everyone is lovely. You can’t afford to think otherwise.
3. Your attitude determines your altitude. Getting doubts and nerves are nothing out of the norm, but successful people manage to overcome these feelings and just get on with things. Paul told the story how a successful friend of his looked so in charge but he honestly told him that sometimes he cannot think of what to say. Sometimes we can drop in confidence but successful people have these small rituals to help them get into a good strong state. Your attitude will determine how far you will go. When challenges come your way, stay positive and work hard. Believe you have what it takes to get to where you want to be.
4.Your relationships are key to success. No one wants to be around negative people who bitch and moan, so stay away from them if you can. You need to manage your environment and choose who you hang around with. Find successful people who will motivate you and who want to see you succeed. An American study has shown that 85% of success is down to the quality of your relationships, so reach out to successful people who you want to be like and develop meaningful relationships with them.
5. Trust your instinct. When making important decisions, such as what career path is right for you or want to start a new hobby, always trust your gut instinct. Your gut is nearly always 100% right. A lot of people tend to overthink situations too much or wait around for conditions to be perfect and as a result, they end up not doing it at all. They talk themselves out of it and might regret that decision later in life. Stop talking about the things you want to do and start taking action. Trust your gut instinct and go for it.
Do you agree with my takeaways from Paul’s podcast? Was there something else you learned from the interview? Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment below.
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